How to Deal with the Things You cannot Control: AimforCent

But, we doubt it when we understand there are plenty of things that we cannot control in life. Here, I am dealing with a lesson and suggestions on how we can control those things.

Often we take hasty decision to get rid of a situation which turns into a disaster. So, read it carefully, you can control your fate very easily.

The things you cannot control are-

1. The past of your life.

2. What others think about you.

3. The error that other makes.

4. Climate.

And, the things you can control are-

Everything other than that, such as-

1. Your society and some elements of nature around you.

2. Your thoughts, feelings, emotions.

3. Your choice and decision.

4. Others attitude towards you.

5. Your fate.

Why things are beyond our control?

The first thing we have to understand is why things are beyond our control.
A most relevant example is life and death. After, the development of science and technology, we think that we can control those things. But, truth is we cannot. These are the confidence that is necessary for further development.
Our fate, decisions, life, and death are partially in our control but a greater portion tends to depend on our work. You can say it ‘karma’, maybe it is ‘fate’. But no doubt we can influence it partially. And there are many things that we can influence more and then we say it as ‘our control’.

But if we can reduce this influence on us, then? Can we do it? Can I control our society alone?

The answer is yes and no both. Actually, it depends on you. Your urge for success. You can definitely influence whole society alone but for this you may have to wait a long time and you need proper planning to tackle the odds of society.

Actually, society is a culture that is created by people like us. And we are bound to obey this society. Otherwise, we will be ‘unsocial’.
But, we definitely can change our society; we need a strong belief and hard work.

So, the reasons for which we cannot control things are given below-

  • Lack of proper planning
  • Depends on other people
  • Depends on society
  • Pessimistic mindset and lack of energy

What are the things we cannot control?

Yes, I agree sometimes we could not control it but if someone like us is spreading the rumor and we can change him/her, then?

Actually, there is nothing that we cannot control. We can control it more or less. For example, any issue of society maybe some rumors. Most of us think we cannot control it.

Now the question comes how can I change? Actually, it should have a mass significance. If society could analyze before spreading it, then we can solve this problem. Social media have a vital role to turn this issue in new directions.
We need to think before spreading such rumors.
The second issue is luck. We cannot control our luck. But, luck is depending on our thought. Even, the thinking that we cannot control our luck has a deep impact on your performance. What you think now, will be your destiny in future.
Let’s use the word thought instead of luck. Now, can we control our thought? Yes, definitely. Then, first change your thoughts and then find out luck is favoring you or not.

Who controls our fate?

Definitely, we control our fate. Sometimes, our society and circumstances also help us to form our lives. In popular terms, fate is a combination of hard work and mindset. Actually, it’s true. So to control fate we need to control our mind like what I have said earlier.

How can I control our fate?

What is visible in a person is not only about the look, personality, financial establishment, smartness, etc. but also about the invisible emotions and feelings in heart we observe in a person in the way we want us to observe and obviously some inner invisible things reveal when we can’t control them.
Beautiful things are not always seen or heard or touched but sometimes felt. It can be the feelings of a lover, the feelings of a ‘newborn mother’ or the feelings of two lost friends are finally together.

1. Discussion and right decision

Discuss with your partner in any complex issues that you are facing. It helps to make the right decision. Sometimes you lose your motivation and mindset and turns into a mere disaster. Through discussion, you can merge two or more mindsets in a single result and that will be beneficial for you.

2. Experience

You need it especially when you deal with society. You need to know the emotions and motif of the society otherwise you cannot convince them logically. If you don’t have much experience, you should take help of an experienced person to promote your thoughts logically. So that you can control society to some extent.
Again, experience also helps you to take the right decision. The right decision helps to be successful in your life. And you will be successful when you have control over yourself. So, take your decision firmly and wisely.

3. A healthy mind and body

I have already discussed in this article the essentiality of a healthy mind or mindset.
For a healthy body, you know the necessity of having it. Health is wealth, a popular proverb. So for me it’s all about controlling and balancing your mind and body to lead a healthy and happy life.

4. Stick around till the end

Never giving up is the most powerful characteristic of human beings. You should not give up if you have a minimum chance of getting success. Definitely, you need to work in a proper way.
If you work in the wrong direction, then result will never come automatically in your favor in that case, your patience is worthless. So I am using the phrase ‘a minimum Chance’. If you have a certain percentage of chance then you are ok to go. Otherwise, recheck and replan and act wisely.

5. Positive thinking

Now, I have mentioned it as the last point. You need to have two types of positive thinking and remember one is useless without the other one. Those two types are positive thinking for you and positive thinking for society.
If you want to control your circumstances then you should think about your circumstances or society. I know, society and circumstances are too broad terms but here I mean everything around you. You need to send positive vibes like a mother to her child.
And the secret is most of the people cannot do these, so they are saying you cannot control things around you.
Here, I have discussed it in detail as far as I could. I want to enrich myself with your precious views and thoughts. If you have any other suggestions to control the things around you?

Things we cannot control quotes.

1. Avoid the things you cannot control is a wise decision.

2. Focus on the things that you can control, these are the things that will write your success story.

3. Use your negative feelings as a positive one.

4. Control your inside, you can influence the outside.

5. Relax and do not stress for the things you cannot control.

6. Think positive for others, you can control the universe.

7. You can influence but cannot control everything.

8. Focus on your inner sound, keep peace inside you.

9. Be grateful for those things you can control and focus on those.

10. Take the responsibility and blame of the things you cannot control because you are the warrior in your life.



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AimforCent : Rohan

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